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A great and kinda not so great, but really great gift

04 Sunday Jan 2015

Posted by mainealexander in Gifts, Strength, Weakness

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Adapted from EQ discussion 1/4/15:

Like any father, our Heavenly Father loves to give his children gifts.  He gives us these gifts because he loves us.  The majority of the time we don’t deserve them, but they keep coming.  He also doesn’t make mistakes in giving us specific gifts.  The gift of the Holy Ghost, spiritual gifts, life, a plan of happiness, etc… One particular gift that He gives is seldom thought of, but can bring great joy, if used correctly.

If men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness.  I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them.1

So what is the gift?  Weakness.

Everyone has weaknesses – and its ok.  It is not a mistake or a punishment that we have weakness.  Upon encountering a blind man, a disciple of Christ asks who did sin, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?  Jesus answered, Neither hath this man sinned, nor his parents; but that the works of God should be make manifest in him.2 This man later, through Jesus, the priesthood, faith, and obedience, receives his sight. He bears strong testimony of the Son of God.

This man was born with a physical weakness.  I am sure that he, at times, had an incredibly difficult life filled with misery and anguish that I can’t imagine. When we meet him he lived in the streets begging for food.  He could not have possibly known that there was a purpose for his struggles and suffering.  But, through Christ, we do.  How often do we know why we are given the weaknesses, whether physical, intellectual, spiritual, or emotional?

The scriptures are riddled with examples of ‘weak’ individuals becoming strong – even spiritual giants.  David described himself by saying I am a poor man, and lightly esteemed.3 Funny enough, this is after killing Goliath.  Talk about humility.  Moses was not eloquent, slow of speech, and of a slow tongue. He was so hesitant, that the anger of the Lord was kindled against him.4 Enoch was but a lad, slow of speech5 when he was called.  Mormon was in his sixteenth year6 when he was appointed leader of the Nephite army.  Joseph Smith was an obscure boy, only between 14 and 15 years of age7 when he entered the Sacred Grove.  Moroni feared that the gentiles would mock at these things because of our weakness in writing and awkwardness of our hands when comparing his writing to the brother of Jared’s. 8

These people were able to become strong out of weakness.  We have been promised that we can do the same.  How?  Moroni teaches that if they humble themselves before [God], and have faith1 we can do so.  We must become as a child, submissive, meek, humble, patient, and full of love.9

Undertaking this transformation can be overwhelming.  Is there a more simple or succinct answer?  Yes.  When Mary anointed Jesus’ head with expensive oil, Judas murmured, thinking that she should have sold the oil and given it to the poor, but Christ, the Master says, Let her alone, why trouble ye her?  She hath wrought a good work on me … She hath done what she could.10

How awesome is that!  She hath done what she could.  We just need to do our best.  We, with our weakness, our imperfections, our guilt, our pride, our sorrow, our addiction, our sin, just need to be humble, admit that we have weakness, turn to Christ, repent, follow in faith and do our best.

At times we may be instruments in helping others overcome weakness.  In turn, others often help us overcome our own.  I can name several that have helped me personally in just the last few months, most unknowingly.  Tests and trials that we have overcome give us the valuable opportunity to assist others in a way that many who have not struggled in a similar way cannot.  Knowing someone else has overcome a similar trial or weakness gives strength and confidence to continue forward in hope for a more bright future.  In helping or serving others we become more like Christ.  We are able, as He is, to support, to comfort, to succor.

“Through an ever-closer kinship with God, a person’s worst flaws and failings may eventually be transformed into shining strengths.  What consolation!  When we acknowledge our weakness to the Lord and receive His aid, a precious side-effect follows — fervent compassion for others and a new concern to love and lift”.11  We do not judge as a natural man9, but have charity toward our struggling neighbors.  We realize that we are all beggars12 in the same boat, depending on and looking to the same source for light and life.  Let us help each other instead of putting others down because their weaknesses are different than our own.

So, our weakness can always become strength?  Not necessarily.  Paul taught another important lesson concerning weakness.

Paul had a weakness that he called a thorn in the flesh that kept him humble.  He asked the Lord three times to remove this weakness.  All three times the Master Teacher answered ‘No’, explaining my grace is sufficient for thee; for my strength is made perfect in weakness.  Paul, because he is awesome, got it.  He wrote, I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.  Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then am I strong.13

Boom.  Paul just dropped the mic.

There must be opposition in all things.14 God did not accidently give us weakness nor accidently give us a trial that we cannot overcome.  We need to learn to work, to struggle, to be meek and mild, to rely on others.  We need to understand forgiveness and rely upon the mercy and atonement of our Savior to find happiness, to succeed.

But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty.15

Now, I don’t mean to glorify weakness.  Truly, we should constantly work to overcome and convert our weaknesses into strengths and keep them that way.  We can, however, glory in the knowledge that we are not alone in this fight. There is a way, a truth, and a life.16  Like Paul, the power of Christ will rest upon us when we are humble.  That, we can glory in.

1 Ether 12:27

2 John 9:1-3

3 1 Samuel 18:23

4 Exodus 4:10-14

5 Moses 6:31

6 Mormon 3:2

7 Joseph Smith – History 1:22

8 Ether 12:23-24

9 Mosiah 3:19

10 Mark 14:6,8

11 Truman G Madsen, I Have A Question

12 Mosiah 4:19-20

13 2 Corinthians 12:7-10

14 Tyson Alexander, Opposition.  See also 2 Nephi 2:11

15 1 Corinthians 1:27

16 John 14:6

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Receiving Gifts

02 Tuesday Dec 2014

Posted by Tyson Alexander in Christmas, Gifts

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Many people, stories, talks, blog posts, commentaries, thoughts, etc. this Christmas season will likely turn and encourage all of us to spend a bit more time sharing or giving gifts, but since I am selfish I will focus this particular post on the act of receiving gifts this Christmas season.  And not just receiving gifts when they are packaged up nicely with a bow, but also rummaging through the house looking for them.

In one of the most amazing revelations ever given the Lord Himself declared “…they shall return again to their own place, to enjoy that which they are willing to receive, because they were not willing to enjoy that which they might have received.  For what doth it profit a man if a gift is bestowed upon him, and he receive not the gift?  Behold, he rejoices not in that which is given unto him, neither rejoices in him who is the giver of the gift”. 1

To make the point of receiving gifts even more clearly at the outset, I think it is appropriate to make a list, since lists are always appropriate.

  1. We can only enjoythat which we are willing to receive.  This statement is made very clear, by indicating that those who do not enjoy the gifts of the celestial kingdom, do (not) so by their own choice, since they were not willing to enjoy that which they might have received.  Yet for us to understand this statement, we must define ‘enjoy’, and we must understand the use of ‘willing’ in this sentence.
  2. The best definition for enjoy is “to have and usewith satisfaction or joy”.  The critical term ‘and use’ indicates that there is some action of difference between simply having, and actually using that creates the state that can be termed ‘enjoy[ment]’.   After all, we’ve all been given gifts that we ‘have’ (you know, the ones sitting in a box on the shelf in the garage…in its original package) and we’ve all been given gifts that we have and use.  That is the difference, and with that we can understand the word ‘enjoy’.
  3. The footnote in verse 32 (b) for ‘willing’ indicates a study of the word ‘agency’ or ‘choice’.

With the understanding of item 1 (on our list), we could perhaps re-phrase verse 32 to read something like this: “…they shall return again to their own place, [to have and use with satisfaction and joy] that which they [chose] to receive, because they did not [choose] [to have and use with satisfaction and joy] that which they might have received.  For what doth it profit a man if a gift is bestowed upon him, and he receive not the gift?

I know the answer, and the answer is nothing.

I am going to throw my two youngest sisters and under the bus now, and I don’t feel too bad about it because 1) the older of my two sisters is currently on a mission in Tijjana, Mexico, and the younger of the two leaves tomorrow for her mission in Tokyo, Japan; 2) they are both awesome and amazing and probably won’t read this blog post anyway2; and 3) it provides me with an excellent example to illustrate this point.

Backstory: For Christmas last year, I gave each of my 7 siblings, plus each of my parents a book.  The book I gave the 4 sisters was the same, but the note that I wrote in the front was personalized, and indicated why I thought they should read it, or what they could hope to gain from reading it.  It was a book that I had read and that I thought would help them a great deal with life, lessons, and the gospel.  I thought that if they read it, they could learn a lot of things, just like I had learned.  A couple of months ago, while at my parent’s house, I happened upon a bookshelf (in my sisters room – the one in Tijuana) – where I spotted the book that I had given her for Christmas.  I naturally grabbed it, opened it up and fully expected to see markings, highlights, insights, and many documented proofs of her great love and appreciation for the book that I had given her.  What I did see was her bookmark located about page 3 of the book.  I won’t lie, I did not feel like she had ‘received the gift’ and therefore had not ‘profited’ by reading it.  Then, only a few weeks later, we were staying at my parents house again and we happened to be in my youngest sisters room – where I beheld on her book shelf the book that I had given her for Christmas – and the same sad story was repeated.3

Verse 33 of this passage also highlights two more lessons that we must know in order to properly receive a gift.  They are also best explained by a list, which identifies the missed opportunities if we “receive not the gift”:

  1. He rejoices not in that which is givenunto him
  2. Neither rejoices in him who is the giver of the gift

I imagine we can all think of a gift that we have either received or that has been given by us, that has been used with satisfaction or joy. These types of gifts, allow both the giver and the receiver “to understand one another, and both are edified and rejoice together”. 4 The opposite of this potential joy as described above, is the lack of enjoyment, rejoicing, and satisfaction that can only come with the active receiving of gifts (like the book I gave my sisters).

Therefore, my purpose in this post – and in the making of lists to highlight important positive and negative consequences – is to make sure that this Christmas season, all of us focus on becoming the best gift receivers that we can be.   Because after all, by being great gift receivers, we can 1) “rejoice in that which is given” and 2) “rejoice in him who is the giver of the gift”.  In order to accomplish this feat, there are three critical objectives necessary for gift receiving:

  1. Recognizethat which is given

Our first objective in becoming great gift receivers is to recognize “that which is given”.  At this point, I could try to come up with some fancy words, or great points (or lists) to make about the best gift, but someone much more talented than me has already done it.  So, as a very real motivation and invitation to proclaim (discover, embrace, and share) the greatest gift this Christmas season, please go here to recognize “that which is given” to each of us.  Once we have recognized what has been given, it allows us to truly “rejoice in him who is the giver of the gift”.

Much has been said, and much will continue to be said about this gift, and the giver of this amazing gift, and it is literally the gift that keeps on giving.  It is the source of all other gifts, the source of all joy, all light, all hope, and all love, and this gift gets better with age and with increased use as we personalize and “use it with satisfaction”.  The gift of a savior is the most loving, caring, wise, and needful thing that could ever be given.  “At the very core of our mortal probation is the choice to receive Jesus as the Christ”. 5

  1. Seek for more gifts

Our second objective in becoming great gift receivers is to continually want more gifts.  That shouldn’t be hard right?  I don’t know if I’ve ever heard a child tell me on Christmas that they were tired of receiving gifts.  We can have more and more gifts too; we just need to know how and where to find them.  “No message appears in scripture more times, in more ways than, ask, and ye shall receive”. 6 And not only is it an invitation, but “each of us accepts a sacred and ongoing responsibility to desire, to seek, to work, and to live that we indeed receive…”.7 At this point, we are even encouraged to become a bit greedy – supported by the commandments to “lay hold upon every good gift,”8 “Seek  ye earnestly the best gifts”,9 and even “Covet earnestly the best gifts”.10 

The best gifts include “long-suffering, gentleness, meekness, love unfeigned, kindness, pure knowledge”, 11 unshakeable faith and/or testimony12, or maybe even “his image in our countenance”. 13 But, perhaps more than anything, we should “covet earnestly” His unselfish and infinite love.  We should seek for it, lay hold upon it, and covet it earnestly.  It should be noted again here that the Lord himself said “seek ye diligently and ye shall find me; ask and ye shall receive”.14  Perhaps this is the process that Alma and Enos followed, because they both indicate that they also ‘received’ a remission of their sins.15

The Father’s gift of His son, and Jesus Christ’s gift of His life (His atonement and His declaration of love) are Their gift to us.  Let that gift sink in.  Appreciate it.  Savor it.  Let it change us.  Let it help us.  Let it give us peace.  Let it calm our troubled hearts.16 Let it bless us.  Let it feed our hungry souls.  Let it bless in time of need.17 Enjoy it (let us have it and use it for our satisfaction).  Let us feel grateful for it.  Let us share it. Let it move us to action.  Let it change our hearts and our eyes so that we can see as He sees.

  1. Give it away

The last and maybe most important element in becoming great gift receivers – is the understanding that in order to fully receive anything it is necessary to give it away.  While this may seem like an opposite, the truth is that giving is in fact the truest form of receiving.  So, in all of our seeking, coveting, and asking for gifts, let it be understood that we should be giving them all away in order to fully receive them.  Let us covet his love so that we can give it away freely.  Let us covet our free will so that we can voluntarily submit and place it on God’s altar as the only uniquely personal thing that we have to offer.18 

How silently, how silently

The wondrous gift is giv’n

So God imparts to human hearts

The blessings of his heav’n

No ear may hear his coming

But in this world of sin

Where meek souls will receive him

The dear Christ enters in19 

Let us rejoice in Him who is the giver of the gift by receiving His love and His gift and helping Him to give it away.

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Notes

1 D&C 88:32-33

2 Dear Kaitlyn and Kallie, if you read this years from now, or really any time at all.  Know that I love you and think you are both amazing.  In addition, I realize that I am just as much at fault in this story, if I presented you with a gift that you did not ‘choose’ to receive because it wasn’t what you wanted (even though I may have thought you needed it) at the time. Maybe someday you will read it and we can rejoice together.

3 It should be noted that Kaitlyn and Kallie are the only siblings that I have proof of not reading my gift from last Christmas – it could be possible that the other two sisters, and my parents have failed to read the books that I gave them for Christmas as well.  I refuse to believe however that my three brothers didn’t read the book that I gave them, because if they didn’t It would be a personal insult to everything that I hold dear, and since they are fellow writers on this blog, I hold them to a much higher standard than anyone else.

4 D&C 50:22

5 See “Receiving by The Spirit”, by A. Roger Merrill – October 2006

6 See “Reverence Invites Revelation”, by Boyd K. Packer – October 1991.  He also lists Matt. 21:22; James 4:3; 1 Jn. 3:22; 1 Ne. 15:11; Enos 1:15; Mosiah 4:21; D&C 4:7; and Moses 6:52 as examples of this.

7 See “Receive the Holy Ghost”, by David A. Bednar, October 2010

8 See Moroni 10

9 See D&C 46

10 1 Cor. 13:31

11 See D&C 121:41-42

12 See Enos 1:11, Mormon 9:28, 2 Ne. 31:19, and Jacob 7:5.

13 Alma 5:14

14 D&C 88:63

15 See Alma 38:8 and Enos 1:2

16 See Hymn 136 “I Know That My Redeemer Lives”

17 Ibid.

18 See “Swallowed up in the Will of The Father”, by Neal A. Maxwell, October 1995

19 See Hymn 208 “O Little Town of Bethlehem”

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